When you live with a roommate in a new apartment, personal time can be hard to come by. Most of the areas will be shared living spaces, aside from bedrooms and maybe a bathroom if there is more than one in the unit. Coming up with a plan to ensure you and all roommates living in the unit have personal time is important when you need to just unwind away from everyone.
Close the Door
Reach an agreement regarding closed bedroom doors. Most people want privacy regardless of what they are doing, so that may mean keeping your bedroom door closed whenever you are in there. However, leaving it cracked slightly can signal your roommate that you’re open to a visitor if they knock and get the okay to come in. A closed door should be enough to let anybody know you don’t wish to be bothered, but it should be stated before the roommate moves in, so they know ahead of time not to disturb you.
You may even want to consider a sign for your door when you want personal time with no interruptions. A simple do not disturb sign should do the trick!
Talk to your roommate about scheduling alone time. This part is easiest if your roommate has an event he or she attends regularly. While your roommate is out, you can enjoy the apartment to yourself, kick back and relax for a little while. The same respect should be given to your roommate should they want alone time in the apartment as well.
If your roommate doesn’t have events they attend, speak with them about a set time where they chill in their room for an hour or two, leaving the rest of the apartment for you to roam freely. While you’re not truly alone using this method, it is an alternative that works when you need to find personal time while living with a roommate. You can offer them the same thing and spend an hour or two in your room while they get some personal time in the rest of the modern apartment home.
This may seem like it defeats the entire purpose of alone time since everywhere else will be filled with people, but those people are less likely to talk to you than your roommate is. Find a small, local coffee shop and relax for a little while, unwinding from the day. Listen to a podcast while sipping on your favorite drink and breathe in the moment.
If you are in dire need of personal time away from your roommate, you may even consider calling a local friend or family member with extra room for you to crash for the night. Having a roommate can be overwhelming and sometimes you just need a night away.
Personal time doesn’t come easy when you live with a roommate. However, communicating and making time available for all involved parties to have personal time can help ease the burden of living with others. Keep your bedroom door closed and place a sign on it if needed or schedule a time for your roommate to stay in their room while you have personal time. Whichever way you go about it, you should always ensure your roommate gets the same treatment and respect.